A brief post...

No significant learning occurs without a significant relationship.~ Dr. James Comer

This quote sums up my teaching philosophy yet I find that too often this is what is falling by the wayside in my classroom as well as some of my colleagues due to pressure from E-Cart etc. Some of the pressure is because we did not have our students for two weeks and at week 3 the pressure was on to dive into ECart. As I am home sick the last two days, my main concern was for my girls and who is in the classroom with them (or that no one is >.<), not that they will be behind. I do not want the tenuous tapestry that we are weaving together to bridge our two worlds to be marred. I will return on Sunday hopefully with a reminder of why I teach, not what I teach.

Privilege

I have spent the last couple of weeks musing about the idea of privilege and it's many facets, especially here in the UAE. It is true that as a westerner I am afforded many privileges just by the fact that I come from a place that is respected. However not all nations have this same status. This is truly one of those places where the class system is visible daily. Pakistanis, Sri Lankians, Phillipinos, and many others suffer injustices simply based on their status and are often ignored or degraded for no reason. This is hard for me to see but I try my best to not adopt the “when in Rome” ideology so many do. I know that time will help to mitigate the circumstances that these people find themselves in and I can only lead by example.

I also am privileged to be a part of the lives of my students and to see them as very few people ever will. I came here knowing that I would probably be teaching all girls in a high school setting and that they would girls that had little interest in going on to university. To some degree this is true. Many of my girls are excited to have a home with many children and feel privileged to be building UAE society. But many of these girls also see a world outside of the home and wish to be a part of it. I get to not only learn their hopes and dreams of the future but also to see as few will ever do. The school is all women (ALL women!!!) and so they are free to shed their abayas and their shaylas and be themselves. I sometimes have a hard time recognizing the ones who usually wear the shayla when they come up during canteen duty without it on. Many choose to cover because they are saving the privilege of their face and hair for the one who they will marry. For many it is their choice and not their families. Being covered does offer protection form a culture where staring is accepted behavior from all men. I also remember that I am here not just for them but for their children. The reform for education is to last for 10 years. In this time, some of these girls will have children entering kindergarten. If they have had a positive experience with English then they will encourage their children to learn more and be able to help.

I truly feel that this whole adventure has been a blessing and that I am privileged to be here at this time. I am grateful for the experience and will enjoy it as it comes. Masha'Allah!

A quick update

I can hardly believe that it is September 15^th and I have been in the UAE for 5 weeks. I would love to say that time has flown, but really it just languishes here and it seems as though I have lived here forever. I need to get a bit better about writing and plan to write at least weekly from here on out. I have had some great blog post ideas but they have floated away into the ether.

Yesterday was the first day of school. It was mostly unremarkable as many students were absent or busy doing things other than coming to class. I will be teaching high school girls, probably 11^th and 12^th grade, although that may change. The girls I met yesterday were very sweet and kind. I know some of it is the novelty of having a western teacher and that may change as they deal with us daily. The schedule is reminiscent of the one I had at my former middle school were we see the girls on a rotating basis. I will see each of my 3 classes a total of 8 times throughout the week. (Still haven't seen exactly how it works yet!)

I really do like it here a lot. It is different yet similar. I think that is where people get confused. The amenities are much like they are in the west but the standard for public behavior is more conservative and the young'uns sometimes forget that part, particularly those who teach girls. We are an influence on the culture whether we mean to be or not and it is easy to not notice who is watching, especially when they are covered. I have always been conscious of my public behavior, even more now than before.

Soon K will be here and it will be a little less quiet in my apartment. Currently I have opted to not have a television and I find that quite freeing. We will see if it lasts.  

I'm here...no really, I am!

Asalaam Alaikum and Ramadan Kareem!


Well today ends the second week in Abu Dhabi. I landed safe and sound on August 6th after an uneventful 13 hour plane ride. We were whisked from the airport and taken to The Yas Hotel on Yas Island Abu Dhabi, home of  a Formula One racetrack and marina. Check it out here! The hotel is about a 30 minute plane ride from the city and is quite apart from almost anything! 


For the past two weeks we have been shuttled to and from medical checks, police checks (at 2AM!), and an overview of our role here. I feel blessed as I have a placement in the city and have had an altogether smooth process thus far. 


Abu Dhabi is a pretty amazing place and we have felt quite welcome here. I have not taken a lot of pictures as we have been either very busy or very tired. Hopefully the next update will be a bit more detailed! 

I'm leaving on a jet plane...

The "golden ticket" arrived yesterday afternoon. I am Abu Dhabi bound on August 4th. So it is REAL. I have been so jealous of the other LTs (that's licensed teachers) posting about their tickets. But now I am in the club!
The emotions that swirl around inside you at this point are amazing. Plus the hundred things I have been avoiding as I fritter my time away on Facebook have now got to be accomplished in about 14 days. I look forward to sharing this great adventure with you! Now off to pack and plan!

B O R E D!

Today has been a BORING one. No news from the visa front although I actually don't expect to hear anything until July 20th or so (yes that is is just a random date. :). So I sort through stuff, pretend to list things on ebay, read books and just hang out. This is the first time in 10+ years where I am without a summer job. It is okay, I really wish I had motivation to complete tasks! 

Some things I have learned about my new home:

• December 2, 2011 will be the nation's 40th birthday.
• The locals are called Emiratis
• Their currency is pegged to ours at 3.67 USD = 1.00 AUD (or Dhiram)
• The Louvre and the Guggenheim are both opening branch museums
• The UAE is a HUGE shopping destination

Here is a map to see where we will be:

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The Things They Carried

So much has been said on "the facebook" about what my fellow teachers will and will not carry with them as they travel to the UAE. As I read through those bits and pieces of home that we strive to fit into the limited baggage we are allowed a few things come to mind.

The first is the novel The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien. We too carry the tangible and the intangible with us. Some of deciding to take pets because of how much they mean to us, our children really. Or the pictures of things to remind us of home when all we see is sand and sun and maybe camels. I plan to bring the boulder people (a collection of rocks from the shores of Lake Superior {ask K about the boulder people}). A bottle of shells from the MANY trips to the beach. I am still debating on whether or not to add the fish bowl and the frog box, we are trying for the minimalist here.

But the it is the intangible that makes a mark that others may only sense when we read the posts and talk of the unknown future. The guilt of leaving the beloved pet behind, knowing that the goodbye may be the last one. The heartache of missing  myriad family functions and milestones. The elation of finally being free to travel to places once thought beyond our grasp. The worry of  the possibilities of what may be when we get there. I too have some of this in my baggage, more than I let on but it is there.

So we sort and we pack and we decide what is essential and what is discard-able. I think of the numerous times I have packed and moved and the enormous need to keep all of what I have because in some ways it defined me. Looking back I think it was fear of the unknown that kept me with my stuff. As I purge the belongings I have, I realize the stuff is just stuff. My memories, my friends, my family, they are what is important. 

Back to a state of anticipation

So I had a little medical scare that had me thinking I would not get to make my planned move to Abu Dhabi. Fortunately it was just a false positive but it lead me to think about all the changes we are making and the impact they can have. We are literally selling everything and moving halfway around the world. We are taking a leap of faith that all will be okay, not perfect but different, interesting, learning experiences.

I am a huge what if person. So I have to try to put a positive spin on that. Let's see some Emily for that:


I dwell in Possibility--
A fairer House than Prose--
More numerous of Windows--
Superior--for Doors--

Of Chambers as the Cedars--
Impregnable of Eye--
And for an Everlasting Roof
The Gambrels of the Sky--

Of Visitors--the fairest--
For Occupation--This--
The spreading wide my narrow Hands
To gather Paradise--

~Emily Dickinson

So we move forward, embracing a minimalist lifestyle (except for the shoes dammit!). We look forward to the journey and trust in God that the destination will be there we it needs to be there. I think what I look forward to the most is time to be a couple, to learn again why we stay together, what makes us a good fit. K continues to amaze and infuriate me on a daily basis. In so many ways he is the boy I met 25 years ago. I look at him and my heart is full. And then of course I want to slap him because he opened his mouth. So we shall see!

A little off the path

So today has caused me to contemplate my relationship with God. For those of you who truly know me, you know that I tend to be a pendulum in this arena. I believe in God, but have a hard time with the formal religious beliefs. I like the liturgical year in Christianity, there is a rythym and flow that gives me a sense of peace. Other religions also hold beliefs that ring true to me and the sense I have in the core of my being is God is God.

I miss time spent daily with God. I miss the community of worshipers and time spent in prayer. I miss belonging to a church family. So why do I let it go? If I had an answer I would fix it. I tend to lean on God in the dark times. I still remember to give thanks and bask in the wonder He has put here for us, but know that this is not "all in."

So how often do I pray for helps for me but ignore praying for others? (I do pray for others but not in a daily mindful way.) I have friends whose faith inspires me daily to work on this relationships. Strong women and men whose faith is evident in how they are in the world. Yet, still I don't walk the way I wish.

For those of you so inclined, pray for me, my family, and God's will (which is always the scariest prayer for me, for His will not mine) and His blessing. And help me as I work to get back to where in my heart I want to be but keep getting distracted by ...look, yellow bird!

Jeremiah 17:7-8 (New International Version)

 ⁷ “But blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD,
   whose confidence is in him.
⁸ They will be like a tree planted by the water
   that sends out its roots by the stream.
It does not fear when heat comes;
   its leaves are always green.
It has no worries in a year of drought
   and never fails to bear fruit.”

Well, you'll be closer when I move to Australia...

This was my dad's reaction when I told him the news. Obviously it went better than anticipated and surprisingly well taken. Of course this is now the third mention of Australia.We shall see how that turns out. Of course he told me Hong Kong might have been better but he was okay with my choice.

Of course then the inevitable questions of what about Ka.  We shared she would be staying in the house and all was right in the world. So now we just wait for papers to be sent and returned and e-tickets to be granted. I am not to the place where this is real yet. Perhaps by July I will begin to feel the weight of this decision. We shall see.

The waiting is the hardest part.

So we plan to finally tell Dad about the news. Sunday is D-day! I know my mind will not change based on his reaction but it doesn't make it any easier. I know he must be lonely without my mom but he does need to understand that K and I are ready for some adventure.

Speaking of adventure, we are considering our Christmas plans and our summer plans already. Christmas is a a mystery, I think we will decide based on cost. I will no longer have traditional holidays anyway. (Maybe for the the grandkids...) But this is my AWESOME for summer. Kr is getting married in August so we will fly home. then we will look for a repositioning cruise to Europe and then train trip to Turkey (or somewhere) then a flight home. I have always wanted to "backpack" across Europe and this will be the "mid-life crisis" version. Will it work out, who knows, but what the heck! So what would you do? Where would you go? I just want to see all the things I haven't so that is a big bunch of choice.

Wish us luck for Sunday! 

Authentication Begins!

So off went the documents to Tallahassee and Saint Paul for step one in the authentication process. Now the wait for their return begins. I am hoping they are back within the next couple of weeks so that I can get them to Pro_Ex for the next steps by June 1st. That should have everything done before I leave on August ??. I read about all my fellow teachers beginning to pack and I look at the lack of stuff to pack. I suppose some shoes could go in the duffel but so far all I can say i am taking are some shoes and some books, maybe towels.

I wish that time would both speed up and slow down....


The good news for the week is that Kr will postpone her "real" wedding until next August and I will get to be a part of it. That made me sooooo happy, even though I know she is a little disappointed.  It ill be awesome!

I have memories - but only a fool stores his past in the future. ~David Gerrold

So with this in mind, the process of letting go has been bittersweet. Yesterday K and I went through 3 tubs of correspondence that spanned our 25 year relationship. From notes passed in high school to letters to Korea and beyond.

I guess what amazes me the most, is even though neither of us believe we have changed we have. From the first fits of infatuation to the enduring love I know we have there have been many bumps (boulders, black ice, etc) in the road. I think when you have longevity you can better see the minuscule nature of the fight that occurs today. i hope both Kr and Ka can navigate the roads they are both on. Compromise is never easy but it is necessary for  progress.

Most of what we went through is destined for the burn pile. Somethings are too personal to leave to be sorted by others. We did save a few things here and there for later perusal, but most items needed to be filed only mentally.

Off to continue to cull the wheat from the chaff (this is really hard when it comes to books). I wonder how many books = 50LBS?
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It all started with an email

So I decided to start looking for something new to do as my current job was no longer meeting my needs and desire for professional growth. (Read I needed a change and my back really hurts from being parked in a chair 12 hours a day). On a whim, I signed up for the statewide teacher job list. Pretty cool site with lots of listings in one place.

Out of the blue I get the email pictured above and laugh, "Where's that, um, don't think so." But I don't delete it. Now for those of you who do not believe in divine intervention, you must understand that 90% of my email is read then deleted as to try and cut down on the electronic clutter. Plus, I was pretty sure getting K back to the desert wasn't happening!

Fast forward a few days and I happen to bring this up with K. As we discussed it, we decided that "nothing ventured, nothing gained" and I applied. I received a call and a phone interview and an invitation to interview in person for the Abu Dhabi position AND a Hong Kong position.

After much debate, deliberation, soul searching, it came down to 800SQFT. could we manage living in a shoe box. Uhhh...no.

And what do i know of Abu Dhabi (More than I thought thanks to Cindi reminding me of Garfield!)



But of course I went into full Tara ResearchGirl mode. So now I will be sharing things with you as I prepare for my journey. Let's see what happens when ducks are never in a row, their just askew!